Have you ever been with people who do not get along and felt the thick tension the whole time? It’s not pleasant, and it can happen at your wedding if you do not consider your seating arrangements.
Your special day is approaching. You’re excited about the number of family members and friends who have accepted your invitation. With the right tips, you can create a seating chart to group guests who will have a great time together. Consider these before placing your conservative grandmother next to your rebellious friend from college:
1. Assess Family Relationships
Think about who does and does not get along. For example, the parents of the bride and groom are often placed together. If parents are divorced, it might be best to break tradition and place them at separate tables with their closest family or friend ties instead.
2. Don’t Overanalyze
Your guests are free to get up and experience the other parts of the wedding, like the dancing. They likely won’t have to sit down for that long, so don’t spend too much time dwelling on assignments. If there are people who you think will get along but you don’t know for sure, don’t overthink it- feel free to play matchmaker.
3. You Don’t Have to Assign Seats
You can assign tables. This way, you can group people who will likely get along, but allow them to choose who they are most comfortable sitting next to. This might prevent you from having to think about each guest’s absolute closest tie.
4. Make Drafts
Things change all the time. Someone might not be able to make it, a couple might break up, etc. Make drafts of your seating chart that are flexible to last minute changes. Try using computer programs you already have, like Excel, where it’s easy to add, remove or reorganize notes.
5. Age Matters
Are there kids coming to your wedding? Have them sit at their own table. Do you have friends who are similar in age and have similar interests? Let them sit together, even if they don’t all know each other. Mixing and matching tables of new and old guests can be effective if guests are similar in age. For example, kids will make new friends and entertain each other instead of pestering their parents or older guests.
6. Try Not to Embarrass People
Don’t have a separate “singles” table. Your guests might not appreciate that they are there without dates. If you know people have previous relations that they no longer maintain, this might not be the time to try to mend the broken ties. Don’t embarrass them into trying to work things out, but instead, let them sit with their friends.
7. Choose an Appropriate Implementation Method
Is your wedding formal? Try elegant place cards that coordinate with the décor, or a fancy seating chart near the entrance of the room. Perhaps consider escort cards with your guests’ names and table number. Is your wedding casual? Your guests will likely be seating themselves, so consider playful place cards that tie into the theme.